The Swinging Lifestyle is a loosely organized group of couples that enjoy adventurous sexual fun. There is no national organization of Swingers. We have no President, no Board of Directors, no Swinger Pride Parade.
There is not one, unifying entity on a national or international level that every couple can point to that says this is what THE Lifestyle is all about. There is only A Lifestyle. Every couple decides how far and frequently they want to dip their toes in the hot tub. The couples are “members” of THE Lifestyle only via their choice to participate in A Lifestyle they have defined within their own comfort levels.
Most couples that I know would put the brakes on THE Lifestyle if their partner wanted to take a break or completely quit. Isn’t this the only healthy option?
I mean, the only alternative is telling your partner that non-monogamy and THE Lifestyle is more important than your relationship. And if you are that type of person, the kind of guy or gal who would rather get your rocks off with others than your own partner, you probably should have stayed away from swinging from day one.
So, when is it time for a couple to quit? Whenever one half of the couple feels like that is the right decision. But hold on, not so fast…
Rather than telling other couples you are “quitting”, why not first say you are “taking a break”? A “break” can be temporary or permanent. If you decide to never play with others again at least you can still socialize with your friends in whatever way you find appropriate. This could mean going to parties to hang out or simply keeping in touch via whatever method you feel comfortable.
When it is time to quit or take a break you will not owe any person or couple an explanation. The choices you make in this lifestyle are between you and your partner and don’t let anyone in THE Lifestyle tell you differently.