Frequently Asked Questions
Swinging Lifestyle FAQs
|I think I am interested in a Swinging experience, but am not 100% sure. This makes me a little uncomfortable, what should I do?|
|Once all the facts are in front of you, the decision will be a little easier. Like anything else in life, the first time may be a little uncomfortable because you have not participated in the activity before and do not know what to do. This is perfectly normal. Contact a local Swingers Club and explain your interests. You will more than likely be speaking with someone who knows exactly where you are coming from because he (she) was in your position at one time. They should be able to offer advice, contacts to speak with or meet, and places where you can go to socialize with Swingers on a platonic basis. This should give you exposure to the Swing Scene without any sexual involvement on your part.|
Aren't you worried about diseases?
When we first started thinking about getting into swinging, we had many of the same questions and concerns as you about STD's. We wish we could tell you the answer or point to somewhere on the Internet that gives the absolute facts, but we can't. This is a personal decision that you and your partner will have to resolve. Like anything in life, there are risks.
We can tell you of a very good book that we have read: The Lifestyle. A Look at the Erotic Rites of Swingers. The author of the book is not a swinger, he's an investigative writer and so far we've found everything in the book to be factual, honest and not just one-sided from a swinger's perspective.
How do you know someone is healthy and safe? You probably cannot be 100% certain but swingers don't want STD's just as much as anyone else. From our experiences, we've seen most everyone being very cautious. Condoms are usually abundant in a club. While most of the people we have observed are not using condoms for oral sex, the vast majority of them do use them for intercourse. That is not to say that we would not play with a couple orally if they asked us to use condoms, it's just that by the time we are in a situation where we are playing with a couple, we're comfortable playing (and yes that is a risk, we take) orally without condoms. If we were to ever decide to have full intercourse with other couples we would definitely use condoms.
I want to be very discreet in my activities. What are the different ways to make contacts with other individuals / couples interested in Swinging?
Established Swingers Clubs are very professional and discreet in their conduct. Otherwise, they would not exist for more than a week. Other alternatives are Swinger publications and contact magazines / newsletters, Internet newsgroups, websites such as this one, introduction services, conventions and special events, travel agencies and resorts that cater to the sexually adventurous, and telephone contact organizations that offer voice mail advertisement and responses as well as chat lines.
How can I maintain my privacy while corresponding with other Swingers?
You should be able to maintain a P.O. Box at a local post office for a nominal fee. Email is growing in popularity these days as well as websites, like this one, whose personal ads will act as an intermediary until you decide to give out your email address. In this way, you can remain anonymous at your leisure. Swinging activities can take place at third party locations: Swingers Clubs, hotels, resorts, private homes, etc.