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Swinging Lifestyle FAQs

What sort of people are Swingers?
The people involved in this Lifestyle consist of a large cross section of the population. Swingers come from all walks of life, in all shapes, sizes and ages. Upon average, it appears that most couples are in their late twenties to mid 50's but there are many other ages represented.

Look at the crowd the next time you are at the airport waiting for a flight. Imagine them without their kids or stuffy suits on but rather looking their most relaxed, sexy best. This will give you an idea of what swingers look like as ANY ONE of these people could be Swingers! We have met all types of people in the Lifestyle with all types of careers from A to Z. Swingers represent a large demographic. Some of the most common similarities we have observed that Swingers share include a sense of adventure, a love for new experiences and meeting new friends, honesty and an open mind, respect for others, and most of all, a very strong, secure and loving relationship with their partner. Swingers, in general, are just all around cool, fun loving people that seem to enjoy life to the fullest.


How do I approach my partner about Swinging?
The short answer is: there is no "right" way to get into this Lifestyle. There is only "your" way. Try a frank discussion - if your partner is able to verbalize his or her sexual desires, then talking and finding out the facts together may lead you to the decision that is best for your overall happiness. If it is difficult to find out exactly what your partner thinks, a less subtle approach may be better. Try exposing your partner to the idea of Swinging through verbal fantasizing during lovemaking, viewing pornographic movies and magazines that portray multiples, becoming platonic friends with Swingers, etc. By contacting local Swingers Clubs, you will be able to find out about parties and hotel lounges that are meeting places for couples interested in Swinging. A visit for dinner and drinks may lead to contacts and discussions that may spark your partner's interest in a new form of sexual adventure!

I think I am interested in a Swinging experience, but am not 100% sure. This makes me a little uncomfortable, what should I do?

Once all the facts are in front of you, the decision will be a little easier. Like anything else in life, the first time may be a little uncomfortable because you have not participated in the activity before and do not know what to do. This is perfectly normal. Contact a local Swingers Club and explain your interests. You will more than likely be speaking with someone who knows exactly where you are coming from because he (she) was in your position at one time. They should be able to offer advice, contacts to speak with or meet, and places where you can go to socialize with Swingers on a platonic basis. This should give you exposure to the Swing Scene without any sexual involvement on your part.

Aren't you worried about diseases?
When we first started thinking about getting into swinging, we had many of the same questions and concerns as you about STD's. We wish we could tell you the answer or point to somewhere on the Internet that gives the absolute facts, but we can't. This is a personal decision that you and your partner will have to resolve. Like anything in life, there are risks.

We can tell you of a very good book that we have read: The Lifestyle. A Look at the Erotic Rites of Swingers. The author of the book is not a swinger, he's an investigative writer and so far we've found everything in the book to be factual, honest and not just one-sided from a swinger's perspective.

How do you know someone is healthy and safe? You probably cannot be 100% certain but swingers don't want STD's just as much as anyone else. From our experiences, we've seen most everyone being very cautious. Condoms are usually abundant in a club. While most of the people we have observed are not using condoms for oral sex, the vast majority of them do use them for intercourse. That is not to say that we would not play with a couple orally if they asked us to use condoms, it's just that by the time we are in a situation where we are playing with a couple, we're comfortable playing (and yes that is a risk, we take) orally without condoms. If we were to ever decide to have full intercourse with other couples we would definitely use condoms.

I want to be very discreet in my activities. What are the different ways to make contacts with other individuals / couples interested in Swinging?
Established Swingers Clubs are very professional and discreet in their conduct. Other alternatives are Meet-and-Greets, Swinger publications and contact magazines, websites such as this one, dating sites, conventions, travel agencies and resorts that cater to the sexually adventurous.

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